People usually embark on romantic relationships in search of intimacy, companionship, and mutual support. Life’s challenges often become easier to manage when someone else helps shoulder the burden.
In a healthy relationship, you might turn to your partner for comfort and guidance when something comes up that you can’t handle alone. Yet relationships can’t thrive without balance.
If one partner regularly provides most of the financial or emotional support, you might have a one-sided, or unbalanced, relationship.
Here are a few signs that could mean that your relationship is a one-sided relationship.
You initiate most conversations.
You send the text messages, you make the phone calls and you put in the effort to see one another throughout the week. If you don’t, several days could go by without exchanging a single word.
If you’re the one making most of the plans to spend quality time together and go out of your way to show the other person how much he or she means to you, chances are you’re in a one-sided love affair.
If you always have to be the first one to make contact, you should get out now.
You feel like you’re tiptoeing around them.
Communications around certain topics are tiptoed around because you don’t want to upset your partner. If it is spoken about, it’s not received with mutual reciprocation.
So instead, you repeat interactions where you feel love from them, even if it’s at the risk of you not feeling known.
Anything that might trigger conflict is swept under the rug.
You don’t have opinions that may trigger them. On the surface level, conversations are pleasant and benign.
You apologize more than you need to.
Sure, sometimes you’re at fault. But if you end up saying you’re sorry every single time, it’s time to take a deeper look at your relationship.
You may think you’re helping by not rocking the boat, but this kind of behavior is an unhealthy sign.
Avoiding conflict results in dismissing your own feelings. Conflict resolution in a relationship should be a team approach and it should never be one person’s responsibility.
You always make excuses for their behavior.
If you’re in a one-sided relationship, more than a lover, you become your partner’s spokesperson.
For every mistake they make, for every awkward situation they create and for every family event they miss, you have to make an excuse and/or justify their actions.
You have to take all the responsibility to safeguard your partner’s reputation and keep your loved ones happy too. Not only is it stressful, but it is also exhausting.
It seems like an act of benevolence and love to continually justify your significant other’s actions, but it could also mean that you’re avoiding the truth and enabling them.
You’re seeing your partner for their “potential” rather than seeing them as they are.
They’re never interested in discussing issues.
Relationships are never perfect.
There are hundreds of problems that arise every day and it takes a lot of effort to overcome them. Therefore, it becomes crucial to discuss these problems and communicate.
However, if you’re in a one-sided relationship, your partner will hardly care to talk about them.
They will show no interest in overcoming these relationship problems and will instead run away from them. They don’t want to address any problems, because they don’t care enough.
So, you feel like you’re left with two options: trying to fix the issues yourself, or ignoring the problems altogether.
You constantly feel stressed out.
You are constantly worrying that the relationship is on the brink of falling apart, and that it’s all your fault. Or that you’re trying too hard to show your partner how much you love them and annoy them in the process. Or that when the two of you are together, your boyfriend or girlfriend would rather be anywhere but with you.
Yes, you should take the time to reflect on your relationship and evaluate what aspects should be worked on, but that doesn’t mean you should overanalyze everything to the point of nearing an anxiety attack.
If your partner is making you feel that stressed out and insecure, then you shouldn’t be with him or her.